“‘O Divine Ones, why does sex exist?’ Brahma, the god of creation, replies, ‘We need the erotic because without it the world is dusty — it lacks gloss.’” —Rig Veda
To believe that the erotic is just about sex is to minimize one of the most powerful energies we can experience in our human form. To reject sex, sexual arousal, and desire altogether as a distraction is equally as harmful. This primal urge to be overcome by sexual desire, as well as to be disgusted by it, is one of the most deeply human conflicts to experience.
Many people have a damaged relationship with sex. The most common forms it takes are:
- Sex as an act of entitlement over another person (e.g., sexual assault)
- Sex as something dangerous, even a vice, to be avoided
- Sex as a mindless entertaining activity
- Sex as a way to prove oneself to others, or meet expectations of a partner, societal gender roles, family (i.e., having children)
Erotic energy is much more powerful than any of these things. It is deeply attractive, arousing. and pulls you in to be transformed. Being sexual is not solely about putting the body on display, meeting cultural expectations of beauty, or inviting romantic attention, though these things can be infused with erotic energy when done with the right intention.
Sexual activity can sometimes exist only in the body. This is when sex is only engaged with in the lowest three chakras, as a way to “scratch an itch” with the rubbing together of body parts. This is enjoyable for many people, but it is not the totality of what sex is.
Shakti, or the energy of Creation, when directed towards inner transformation, is called Kundalini, “the coiled serpent.” The goddess takes the form of transformative energy, which lies dormant within most people, waiting to be awakened. This energy yearns to be free, and arise to meet Shiva, her beloved, in final, obliterative sexual union. Therefore, the energy of spiritual and psychological transformation is intrinsically erotic. And yet, only a very small part of Tantric practices, rarely partaken of by the average seeker, involve sexual intercourse. This is because physical intercourse is not necessary for this erotic energy to be accessed. Erotic energy is an invitation to transformation. You can access it with or without a partner, having had sex before or never having had sex.Continue reading